word of wisdom

my close friends all know that i have always wanted to have a baby since i was a teenager. and even though i wanted to be a mother so badly, after rafael was born, i still have moments that i feel overwhelmed by motherhood.

today i read from the baby kingdom that there's a pair of parents who will give a card to each of their children who are having their own children born. and the message on the card reads like this:

當bb尚未懂得跟你們完全表達自己之前，你們可能會覺得自己毫無自主，為什麼子女的需要和要求控制著自己的時間呢？無論如何，只要你們忍耐，以祥和的態度和愛心養育他，學習你們的身教，子女自然會聽教聽話．你們以這樣的心態去看，無論你們的處事是就著子女而行，都會感到輕鬆一些．能放下身段，就沒有被子女牽著走的感受，因為決定權依然是你們掌握的......我們的子女都是如此長大的．

能放下身段，就沒有被子女牽著走的感受... yeah i guess i should just let go and stop being a nervous and possessive mother, and hope one day i will also be able to give my child some words of wisdom when he's having his own child.