Monday, August 11, 2008

shall we sit back?

那天晚上爸爸當夜班,媽媽又如常將靖愷放在枕邊一起睡。凌晨一時許,靖愷哭醒了,媽媽拍背,抱起都不能安撫小人兒,於是使出絕招--餵奶,總算是可以令他停止哭了。好不容易將他安放在床,一會兒他卻又哭起來。如是者又重覆拍背、抱起、餵奶和小心翼翼放在床上的動作...然而不過一會兒他又再哭起來了。這時候媽媽已累透,心想:就讓這小人兒哭一會吧!靖愷喊著go ah go ah go ah(究竟是要到哪裡去?),不夠一分鐘,他踢開被子,轉個身,竟徐徐睡去了。

又有一次,又是爸爸的夜班日,媽媽趁小人兒睡著後洗澡去,突然聽到"嘩"哭一聲,趕緊沖掉泡泡,包著毛巾趕出去準備拯救。咿,怎麼哭聲停了?立即停下腳步從門口偷看在嬰兒床的寶寶,原來他正在看床上的吊飾,還在把玩床上的小玩意。不覺一會,轉一個身,小人兒的眼睛竟合上了。

好友v留言談到"越是受到高度關注的下一代, 抗逆能力便越低",真的再同意不過。現今的小公主小王子都萬千寵愛在一身,睡時玩時吃時嘩一聲就有爸爸媽媽爺爺嫲嫲公公婆婆外傭姐姐隨時化身superhero飛身撲救,是在幫小朋友還是在剝奪他自我安慰自行解決事情的機會?

要提醒自己:下次聽到嘩一聲,請停一停,想一想,也讓孩子有機會自己好好的想一想。

1 comment:

Yoshi said...

Sometimes I do the same, but then I have to remind myself don't let that becomes a habbit, otherwise, it will be harder to get rid later. However, I can understand u are just caring a lot about Rafael. U work the whole day, so there are less time to spend together. Every little thing about him means so much to you. It's natural to react that way.